Forgivene
Form victim’s aspect, forgiving the criminals is also a way of self-treatment.If victims and victim’s family members held a grudge against the criminals, they can’t forget the hurt as result of criminals’ mistakes.The wound in their body may be cured but the wound in their heart, in their mind and in their soul cannot be healed.The life of victims are no longer happy or beautiful, instead, it full of pain and hatred.What’s worse, some victims answer blows with blows, resort to violence and cause another tragedy.Take Bud Welch for example, his 23-year-old daughter was killed in the bombing of the Murrah Federal Building in 1995, at the beginning, he didn’t forgive the killer, he cannot deal with the pain of daughter’s death and started self-medicating with alcohol, and he even want the killer to fry.He was living in the hatred at that time.After he met with killer’s father and sister and talked to them, he came to recognized they also suffered pain.He found it in his heart he has forgiven the killer and it was also a release for himself.The dead had past, the mistakes had existed, injury had occurred, we cannot avoid it, but face it.Life goes on, we should not let hatred and pain destroy our lives.In some degree, forgivene is not only save others but also save ourselves.
