\" The weakne of human nature\" impreion after reading I finished the book this weekend.I feel very lucky to see this book before I graduate.I think it\'s a great help to me in the future.During this time, I learn that all people were have the weakne in their innermost.1.Abstract
Since the publication of his first book 《How to Win Friends and Influence People》 in 1936, Dale Carnegie has touched millions of readers and his claic works continues to impact lives to this day.It can be seen clearly that Carnegie fully exprees some skills in handling people, making people to like us by showing concerns towards others.It provides some hints for modern individuals in their development of rapport and communication skills.2.Introduction Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) was a pioneer of the self-improvement genre.The book How to Win Friends and Influence People is the claic book about rapport and communication skills.Well interpersonal relationship will minimize the effort required to have work completed.There is no doubt that developing the rapport with others is a crucial part of our daily life and it will benefit us in various aspects.There is a perfect combination of vivid examples and concise words in Carnegie\'s suggestion of communication skills.Among these communication skills, many are relevant to showing concerns to others.The value of showing concerns towards others is worthy of exploring.3.The main part of the book The book how to win friends and influence people is mainly made up of 6 parts.The first of which is Fundamental Techniques In Handling People.In this chapter, Carnegie gives us readers plenty of advice on dealing with others in our everyday work and life,such as learn to understand and forgive instead of complaining and condemning others.In the second part,the book introduces 6 methods that can make you a popular guy around people.When it comes to the third chapter,it\'s the longest part of this book,which means it could be the most significant part.In this part, twelve principles are listed to help win people to our way of thinking.Then Nine Ways To Change People Without Giving Offence Or Arousing Resentment comes as the forth part.The name of the fifth chapter is Letters That Produced Miraculous Results.Though this chapter is a little bit short, but it\'s as useful as the last four parts,teaching us how to win trust and friendship through asking others for a favor which gives them a feel of importance by analyzing a letter and the examples of Ben Franklin as well as Dale\'s student,Albert B.Amsel.The final chapter of the book is about family life called Seven Rules for Making Your Home Life Happier including 7 rules for couples to build a harmony family.Then I write the feeling after I read it.4.The eence of the book is Wisdom of showing concerns to others
Showing concerns to others plays a crucial role in learning how to make people like you and win people over to your way of thinking.
4.1 make people like you
Almost everyone desires to be welcomed everywhere.However, it is very difficult for one to make it come true when he spares no efforts in getting other people interested in him.In Carnegie\'s view, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you”Psychologically, human being are self-centered by
nature.So becoming genuinely interested in others will fulfill this kind of needs of other persons.The happine and sense of fulfillment derived from it is obviously clear.Paying more attention to others not only helps us to win friends, but also to some aspect helps the receivers.To aume that when we are frustrated and lonely, a warmth and tenderne from others will somewhat be comforting. Carnegie also emphasizes the importance of being a good listener.He suggests us to encourage others to talk about them.As we all know, an interesting conversationalist can always draw our attention.Carnegie holds the view that “if you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”Sometimes a good listener is equal to an interesting conversationalist.We all dislike those who talk only of themselves or like to interrupt other\'s conversation.In contrast, we are willing to make friends with those who can always be attentive and sympathetic listeners.As the Reader\'s Digest once said: “Many persons call a doctor when all they want is an audience,”It is not uncommon that what we all want when we are in trouble is merely a friendly, sympathetic listener to whom we could unburden ourselves.
4.2 Win people over to your way of thinking
One of Carnegie\'s advice on win people over to you way of thinking is “show respect for the other person\'s opinion, never say, \'you are wrong.\' ”
Not even the most distinguished person can be right all the time.As to common people, we can\'t be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time.In this situation, why should we tell other people they are wrong? By telling others they are wrong, we have struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgment, pride and self-respect.That will make them want to strike back.But it will never alter their opinions, for we have hurt their feelings.
“The little word “my” is the most important one in human affair, and properly to reckon with it is the beginning of wisdom.”We should liberate ourselves from the self-concerned thinking pattern.Showing more respect to others opinion and taking their feeling into consideration will win more agreement than argument. What\'s more, we should “Try honestly to see things from the other person\'s point of view.”Seeing things through another person\'s eyes may ease tensions when interpersonal problems
become overwhelming.One of my friends once complained to me about her roommates.On her birthday, her roommates sent her a Green Tea cake which is always the last choice of her.She thought that they intentionally made her awkward.However, I think neither my friend nor her roommates have stood in other\'s place to think question.Her roommates just chose the flavor of cake according to their own.and accidently got the unsuitable one.If my friend had seen this through her roommates\'eyes, she would not care about this trivial thing.For the sake of winning people to think in our way, we can by no means lose sight of their view.
5.Examples in books \"The weakne of human nature,\" a book the author described as dealing, the rationale for doing things, so that impreed me most deeply in an article entitled \"unfavorable factors will translate into succe factor\", there has been a story to inspire Me.
5.1 Story details Happen in 1929, a youth to the mountains to cut down Hill walnut, he wood pile in the car, drove home.Suddenly a wooden sliding down, he is Jizhuan Wan, the wood in the axle of the card, he bounced to a tree, the spine was injured.Since then both legs paralyzed.At that time, young people aged 24, since then, he has not traversed step Road, was considered a lifetime spent in a wheelchair.Zuonong the fate of his resentment, but with age Jianchang, he found no resistance on their help, only to become their own Jiansuankebo.Others are courteous and good to me, I should at least have to respond to the courtesy and good people.More than 10 years have paed, some people asked him think that is an unfortunate incident? » He said: \"No! I was almost glad that it happened.\" Shock and resentment that experience of the stage, he began reading the literature and culture from the hobby.14, he read over 1,400 books, these books expand his vision, his life than in the past could have imagined even rich He also began listening to music, he moved before the symphony will only let him nap However, really the most important changes, or thought he had the time.\"The first time in my life, the real intentions of the world to see and appreciate its value, experience of previous efforts to pursue a lot of things have no real value.\"
Since reading, he began the political interest in his study of public iues, in a wheelchair a speech.He began to understand people, and people have begun to know him, because such efforts, a local political figures from elevated to a national political figure.The legend is that Al • Smith.He was re-elected governor of New York 4 seionindeed, many stupid people do so.We only have to learn to care about the friends in good faith, to win the trust of friends.After reading Carnegie\'s works, I learned that here is a book to teach people how to do things, this book is suitable for us, learn how to treat people, not only to improve their ability, so that we better integrate into the community, so as to gain succe, and also conducive to the integration of their own and the relationship between people, let others happine, but also to their own happine.In fact, the relationship between people is very subtle, a look, a word will have an impact on the people around.For example, in the face of a friend, we should learn to be tolerant, especially when faced with a friend\'s fault, to have an inclusive heart, as Carnegie said: \"criticism will not change the fact, but will lead to resentment.\" Carefully handling the so-called \"criticism\".This is one of the basic principles to get along with friends, but, in the face of friends, the society how to be sincere appreciation of the friends, everyone is eager to be sure, be appreciated, when the succe of a friend, give the most sincere appreciation, it is very moving.\"In your daily life, don\'t forget to leave a little bit of praise for the world.This little spark can burn the flame of friendship.\" Carnegie\'s remarks are really straight into the heart.Friends is a very important part of our life, we should cherish, to know how to treat this rare friendship.So, how to treat strangers? When we walked into a group, into the society, will encounter all sorts of people we don\'t know that, how to treat? In fact, truth is the same, in everybody the same thing, we must respect his personal views, treat others friendly, don\'t put his views on others, because everyone is equal, you have your ideas, I have my ideas, so only when we respect each other and friendly, will agree to solve the problem.8.2we can build a much more harmonious rapport Rather than using dull and elusive language, Carnegie used common language while making the book full of examples.I appreciate this as it contributes to my reading interest.Moreover, apart from adopting mottoes, he not only took those who were his friends as examples, but also world-famous celebrities, like Lincolne and Francklin and so on.Such writing skill makes the demonstrate of the book more solid.I would like to mention that in this book, all the examples are linked in a flexible way,which adds to its readability.
In the final part of my paage, I would to talking about my comprehension of Carnegie\'s ideas.I can\'t agree more with this sentence,\"If You Want To Gather Honey, Don\'t Kick Over The Beehive\".When we get a upset situation we are not recommended to pin all the blame on others.Criticism is dangerous,because it wounds a person\'s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.Let\'s place ourselves in the position of those who have made a serious mistake.We ourselves are also in a terrible mood for misdoing something important, and what we actually need are consolation and encouragement but not the bitter words that frustrate us.So just follow Carnegie\'s suggestions.Show our tolerance and patience instead of criticizing, understanding wins more than criticism.
Carnegie also told us to let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers to win cooperation.This makes sense in busine and politics.In everyday life, when we are urged to buy something by a salesman, we always turn our back on them.But why
we act like this, according to Carnegie, because we don\'t we need this at all.So here come the problem for a salesman, how to sell his products? Actually he just need introduce the product to the buyer in his place and ask the buyer\'s advice on improving the product.In this way, as the buyer is asked, he feels like being involved in the designing proce, thus buying this product is in the nature of things.In our everyday teamwork, it is the same that we should combine every teammates\' idea together.
However, every book should be read with reservation.As this is a book published more than 70 years ago, something might have changed and some ideas in the book had become usele.For example, “You\'re wrong .” is never recommended by Carnegie in this book.This time i can say that i am in favor of his idea.I think when we notice someone making a mistake, we should point it out as a warning for him.Manty people might think that such behaviour is rude and embarraing, but in today\'s high-speed society, a direct “You\' re wrong.” is may be more effective than many periphrastic reminds because you can realize your mistake easily and correct it at once to avoid further lost.
8.3Happy life In today\'s society, changing, in the face of work and life preure, fatigue is everyone will have some.How can we be happy? Mr.Carnegie said: \"the life is rich and colorful\".Find a suitable opportunity, about a few good friends, go to the gym, swim, relax yourself, so that their physical and mental are all relaxed, this is a good way of life.It is true that you will get more happine from it with others.I think the biggest advantage of young people, is to maintain the vitality, vigor, paion unlimited.To sum up, showing concerns to others is of great importance.It can not only help us to win more friends but also win people over to our way of thinking.If we can keep this in mind, we can build a much more harmonious rapport.
