College students can not be together in love The current China\'s constitution and marriage law does not specifically restrict college students love and even marriage, in addition to the provisions of age and certain diseases, it should be said that love marriage is a civil right; today\'s domestic and international community for college students to talk about love also maintain a calm neutrality, tolerance, acceptance, but in the face of a certain tendency to view, that is to promote college students do not fall in love, and to study the main, the overall no objection to prohibit college students love or marriage.This phenomenon is like at this stage of social attitudes to smoking behavior as, do not advocate smoking, but on a real cigarette, people will in the proce along respect this behavior even to provide convenient, such as cigarettes and so on.Can be seen, our society is a tolerant society, a pluralistic society, college students love to talk about love has no absolute should not, can not be the view, but the rational face, correct guidance, reasonable trade-offs.The social tendency of advocating is a kind of college students to fulfill the main task of the overall look forward to, and specific to each family of children\'s learning, marriage may decide based on the different customs, family instructions, conditions, preferences, and so on.Some families may ask their children must be in love, otherwise they will intervene and limit; and others believe that as long as they do not affect the learning, the other is very good, the two sides also really love, why not? Other ideas and opinions be too numerous to enumerate, there is a skeleton in the cupboard.You, world oblige, matching good marriage family, bastinado mandarin duck, the parents and the children break tragedy is no only...On college students from a personal point of view, whether or not to talk about love also will be affected by the inherent concept, individual character, influence on learning and relationship of the different understanding, family education, environmental impact, opportunities and grasp, and therefore achievement whether college students talk about love unique mouth with approbation, stepiron shoe to find, all feigongfu don\'t come, luring more clung to, regardle of the rivers and lakes paionate, I self stays on the...And due to the failure in love and cannot recover after a setback, watching others love and inner uneven, mi love and regret, love learning retreat Park in future etc..So each of the students are in addition to learning whether or not to talk about love campus kaleidoscope of dolphin individual stars.In addition to the social, family, personal views and other factors affecting college students are not about love, each of the students in the micro concept of the world and the concept of the collision between the students can also affect their love behavior.In terms of physiology and psychology, most of the body is good, the image is unique, energetic, outgoing personality, emotional, good at verbal, longer than the active romantic love psychology, opportunity or easy to attract foreign students as a love choice; vice versa, more paive love psychology, love opportunity is relatively small.School and need is the relationship between the students how to deal with the needs of their studies and love.It should be said that the college students\' age, although the love season, but in a lifetime of learning profeional knowledge, to seek the most critical period of the future development of the basic task, and to complete their studies is the fundamental task of college students, so that learning is neceary, neceary and inevitable, and love is not a neceity for college students, can be postponed to graduation.Freedom and responsibility are the love freedom and can be responsible.Some of the current college students fall in love is not entirely so-called true love or responsible for the future of marriage, but herd, or fashion, or some vanity of caused by, of course, some of which actually is true love.Regardle of which are with love freedom, do not have to be responsible for the love of economic base, even if the latter can do is \"Ken old\" income, and therefore, from this point of view, some intelligent college students is determined not to fall in love, and some students is unquestioningly carrying out.In short, if you are at a croroads now, well, individualized treatment weigh the advantages and disadvantages of it, do not delay learning.
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大学生恋爱后能不能在一起 当前中国的宪法和婚姻法没有专门限制大学生谈恋爱甚至结婚的条款，除了对年龄和某些疾病的规定外，应该说恋爱结婚是每一个成年公民的权利；当今的国内国际社会对大学生谈恋爱也保持一种坦然的中立、宽容、接纳的态度，但是在具体面对时有一定的倾向性看法，那就是提倡大学生不谈恋爱，而以学习为主，总体不反对不禁止大学生恋爱甚至结婚。这种现象很像现阶段社会对吸烟行为的态度一样，不提倡吸烟、但是对真正吸烟的人，人们也会在相处过程中尊重这种行为甚至为其提供方便、比如敬烟等等。
可见，我们的社会是一个宽容的社会、多元化的社会，大学生谈恋爱没有什么绝对的该不该、能不能的看法，而是理性面对、正确引导、合理权衡。
社会的倾向性提倡是一种对大学生履行主要任务的总体期盼，而具体到每一个家庭对子女的学习、婚恋却可能依据不同的风俗、家训、条件、喜好等等来决定。一些家庭可能要求子女一定要大学毕业以后再恋爱、否则必将加以干涉和限制；而另一些家庭则认为只要不影响学习、对方又很优秀、双方也的确相爱，为什么不可以呢？其他各种观念和主张不胜枚举、家家有本难念的经。不是么，世间成人之美、撮合美好姻缘的家庭有之，棒打鸳鸯、父母与子女决裂的悲剧也绝非仅有„„
就大学生个人而言，是否谈恋爱也会受到自身固有观念、个体性格、对学习与恋爱关系的不同认识、家庭教育、环境影响、机遇把握等的影响，并且因此而成就大学生是否谈恋爱的独特美谈，有踏破铁鞋无觅处的，也有得来全不费工夫的，更有抱定无论江湖多情诱、我自岿然不动的„„还有因恋爱失败而一蹶不振、看他人恋爱而内心不平、错过恋爱而后悔、恋爱后学习进退前程未朴等。所以，每一个大学生分别都是除了学习之外是否谈恋爱之校园万花筒中的一颗颗个性化的繁星。
除了上述社会、家庭、个人观念等较宏观因素影响大学生是否谈恋爱以外，每一个大学生个体的微观概念世界以及学生之间概念的碰撞也能影响其恋爱行为。
就生理和心理而言，多半是身体较好、形象独特、精力旺盛、性格外向、感情丰富、善于言辞、长于交际者主动恋爱心理强、机会多或容易吸引异性同学作为恋爱选择对象；反之，则多为被动恋爱心理、恋爱机会比较少。
学业与需要是指学生如何处理学业与恋爱需要之间的关系。应该说大学生的年龄虽然已经到了恋爱季节，但又处于一生中学习专业知识、寻求将来发展基础的最关键时期，出色地完成学业是大学生的根本任务,只有这样才是合格的，因此，学习是必须、必要、必然的，而恋爱则不是大学生的必需品，可以有、也可以推迟到毕业后。自由与责任是指恋爱自由与能否负责。当前一些大学生谈恋爱完全不是所谓真正的爱情或为今后的婚姻负责，而是追风或赶时髦，有的还是虚荣心所致，当然有些的确是真正的爱情。不管是哪一种情况，都是具有恋爱的自由、不具有对爱情负责的经济基础，即便后者能够做到也是“恳老”所得，因此，从这个角度讲，一些明智的大学生是坚决不会谈恋爱的，而有的大学生是不管三七二十一的。
总之，如果你现在正在十字路口，不妨权衡利弊、个体化地处理吧，千万不要耽误学习。
